Sala Sihombing

Sala Sihombing
Sala Sihombing originally qualified as a solicitor in the United Kingdom and Hong Kong. After 14 years in banking, she has shifted gears, recently completing a Masters in Law from the Straus Institute at the Pepperdine University School of Law. Visit: www.conflictchange.com

Judging Mediation?

Last night I attended a seminar on med-arb, a relatively esoteric topic unless you are in the ADR field.  Although unusual in HK and Western ADR jurisdictions, the combined use of mediation and arbitration with the same neutrals is not unusual across the border...

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The truth about Win Win

When will we start telling the truth about negotiation? For many years, much negotiation training has been focused on seeking win-win results. This concept was popularized by Fisher and Ury’s extremely influential Getting to Yes.  The search for a win-win...

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Parallel Futures

Imagining the future can seem like an impossible task. The hurts and pain of the past and present can make thinking about how things might look in one year, five years or ten years can be a struggle. At a time when parents are working through their separation, their...

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Parallel Rules

One of the key principles of parallel parenting is that instead of having unspoken rules, the co-parents put in place explicit and clear rules to manage their relationship.  For whatever reason, the old patterns of behaviour did not work for the family and...

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Trust me

Whether, people are in family mediation or employment mediation or commercial mediation, they have probably seen trust erode. All the reassuring words in the world cannot rebuild trust.  Maybe you don't need to.  Maybe the relationship is over and you are...

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What is his name?

President Trump has expressed a wish to act as a 'mediator, arbitrator or facilitator' in negotiations to resolve the Israel-Palestine conflict. Leaving aside for one moment whether this is a good idea, what does it mean to act as a mediator, arbitrator or...

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Walk it out (Reposted from Previous Website)

Tim used to say ‘walk it out’ in each class.  He would challenge everyone in the room to consider an idea, a value or a belief and then ask us ‘how did we walk it out’ in our lives?For Tim this meant that principles and values needed to be demonstrated and not...

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Primetime

There were many fads in the eighties that did not catch on.  Neon clothing, big shoulder pads and Wham! have passed into cultural history, however one fad has survived and thrived.  Derivatives have grown from an 865.6 billion dollar market in 1987 to a...

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A Tale of Two Cultures: Nomadic and Settler

How can mediation help bridge the culture divide between two cultures in conflict? Whilst mediation is often concerned with interpersonal relationships, it is incumbent on ADR professionals to consider how ADR techniques could be used to address issues in society,...

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Duì bu qĭ seems to be the hardest word

“Forms of apology may exist within all cultures but not perhaps with the same meanings. This paper aims to explore some of the orthodoxies surrounding Chinese cultural norms and how they impact concepts of apology and forgiveness. Are the orthodox beliefs about...

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