Most people want to get what they desire, which is where negotiating can come into play. There are countless books about negotiation out there, but which one is the best option? Learning to bargain...
This fall I attended one of the outdoor concerts by the Los Angeles Philharmonic Symphony at the Hollywood Bowl. It was a spectacular affair—beginning with the wonderful sounds of classical music and ending with a fantastic light show. The concert featured a local university marching band as well as a guest appearance from a world renowned cellist.
Two key points:
First, to be successful, a boxer must first become desensitized to the
effects of inflicting injury on others. Secondly, the boxer must accept
personal risk with every fight.
As a litigation attorney and a writer, the boxing world is full of
parallels to my profession. Many key psychological aspects of boxing are
very similar to that of litigation.
I was fortunate enough to attend a Horse Race in Hong Kong. I heard
about the race from a friend I met while travelling who just so happened
to be a horse jockey in the United States. We were both eager to see
what proved to be an exhilarating cultural experience.
the world of mediation over the past few months, I’ve noticed an
interesting shift by United Nations officials. It seems Ban Ki-moon is
on what some might call a “Mediation Kick.”
in the Galapagos, I had the amazing opportunity to visit various
islands—each unique with their own set of flora and fauna. I am still
amazed to this day of one theme common to all the islands. As our tour
guide explained it, the animals somehow evolved without any natural
predators. I’m sure there is an actual scientific evolutionary
explanation but the details are lost on me. Without predators, the
animals don’t engage in conflict.
As individuals, we learn things in four stages: (1) unconscious incompetence, (2) conscious incompetence, (3) conscious competence, and (4) unconscious competence … Many argue that the unconscious competent is not the ultimate level … Robert W. Pike actually created an additional fifth level entitled “conscious unconscious competence.”
When trying to prevent conflict or deescalate conflict, it is often
helpful to consider how language barriers—in this case between men and
women—helped fuel the original conflict. Only by understanding how men
and women communicate differently can channels of communication be
opened. Here are four points that are helpful when dealing with parties
that different backgrounds (including culture, country of origin, native
language, geographic region, age, and gender) create different
interpretations of language. Because all individuals have different
backgrounds and different conversational styles, misunderstandings are
likely to arise.1 For example, a minor dispute might arise
between a husband and a wife, but their unique conversational styles
prevent them from resolving the dispute amicably because they are
“talking past one another.”
heard Michael Eselun, an oncology chaplain, give a speech on a coping
mechanism that each of us use every single day: “it could be worse.”
This simple phrase is used in all types of situations. We may be
stressing out in a particular situation and we tell ourselves, “it could
be worse” and we calm down and relax a bit. Parents teach their
children this concept and our society relies on this message to help us
get through our daily lives. “I work two jobs and I still don’t know how
the bill are going to be paid…but at least I’m not hungry and at least
there is a roof over my head.” “My life may be rough, but at least my
family has not suffered mass catastrophes like the Japan earthquakes or
Hurricane Katrina or the Mississippi floods.”