Hot off the presses from the Harvard Business Review is a warning to stop following advice to be nice, pliable and pretty to get where we have always belonged – in place, in power, and in the money.

Here’s the heart of the article encouraging us to stop being Office Stepford Wives (with a grateful hat tip to the awesome Lauren Stiller Rikleen).

We argue for the new criteria that promotes not Stepford but step-forward leadership for women. We need to identify and promote the true leadership qualities that women can bring to the workplace.

This is currently being overshadowed by the Stepford “rules,” giving people false expectations of what women in the workplace should be. We need to write less about what we expect women to do or wear, and more about individual, interpersonal leadership approaches that work. Step-forward leaders have multiple attributes that defy gender stereotyping. When examining, reporting, or discussing successful women, the emphasis needs to shift away from identifying them only from a gendered perspective and look more at the positive qualities they bring to the workplace.

via Stepford Women in the Workplace – Athena Vongalis-Macrow and Andrea Gallant – Harvard Business Review.

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by Victoria Pynchon

Victoria Pynchon is an attorney-mediator and arbitrator. She is also a principal in the She Negotiates Consulting and Training firm for which her blog “She Negotiates” is named. In addition to writing for the legal blog “On the Docket,” Pynchon also authored the book “A is for A**hole, the Grownups' ABCs of Conflict Resolution.