A family lawyer is certainly the best person to manage your divorce case. But since having divorced is not something you do all the time, where do you start? You begin by creating a list of prospective divorce lawyers. Then meet one and ask questions in a form of interview just as you interview others for hiring their services. Should you feel that he won’t give you accomplishment in managing your case, take him out from your listing and move on to your next prospect.

This phase on your life is very essential and you need to have the one who can make a great change on your life. Always listen to your instincts with regards to your choice of a family lawyer.

You need to have a lawyer who is very transparent enough in his terms of the transaction. This is some thing you should know just before he does any work for you. Of course, you don’t want to encounter any type of financial surprises in the middle of your case.

The family lawyer must clearly explain to you what fees he charges and when they will be due. He must also tell you about the modes of transaction and the initial fee you need to pay.

Of course you don’t want to have conflict with your lawyer because of funds, that’s the reason why you must have a transparent discussion about the fees before you end fighting. You have been experiencing too much problems with your partner and of course you do not want to encounter more troubles this time around.

Make an interview with a family lawyer equipped with some important questions to ask. You need to be sensitive with the tone the lawyer is using. If you believe he speaks with you in a condescending way, you say goodbye in a well intentioned way and move on your next prospect. In addition, this is the same for lawyer who tend to laugh at you or is making you a foolish way.

customer, you deserve to be treated with value, politeness and decency. You should feel that the family lawyer that you work with is in your favor. Definitely, you want a person in your party who does not make you feel small or perhaps berates you.

You do not want to get even or exact revenge in your spouse. You need a legal counsel that can give fair success in your divorce through his abilities and in a practical way. In all phases of your case especially in talking with your attorney, you mustn’t mention of the word “revenge”. Play fair with each other.

In the beginning, you may encounter a legal professional who will really surprise you. You might be attracted to hire him in just a single meeting. Don’t be tempted with it very easily. Meet with some just before making a final decision.

You need to have a proficient family lawyer on your side when you are having a divorce.

Victoria Pynchon is an attorney-mediator and arbitrator. She is also a principal in the She Negotiates Consulting and Training firm for which her blog “She Negotiates” is named. In addition to writing for the Forbes.com legal blog “On the Docket,” Pynchon also authored the book “A is for A**hole, the Grownups' ABCs of Conflict Resolution.