A family lawyer is certainly the ideal individual to deal with your divorce process. But since getting divorced is not something you do constantly, where would you start? To start with, you need to make a list of the potential divorce lawyers. You should meet any of them and have him interviewed like you interview other professionals that you going to employ. If you feel that he is not good enough to deal with your case, remove him from your listing and go on to the other attorney.

This is an important matter on your life and the last thing you want to do would be to work with somebody that you don’t like or feel you can’t rely on. With regards to finding a family lawyer, it is vital to pay attention to your instincts.

It is essential that your lawyer is straight in letting you know about his service fee. You should make this clear before you work a case with him. You do not want any unwanted financial surprises when you’re halfway through your case.

He must be able to clarify the concerns to you concerning the payment and also the due date. He should tell you what payment ways are suitable and how much money you need to pay at the onset.

Of course you don’t want to have conflict with your legal professional because of funds, that’s the reason why you must have a transparent discussion about the fees before you end fighting. You’re going through enough already with your soon-to-be ex-spouse and do not have to add to your difficulties.

Go to your interview with a family lawyer equipped with a list of very specific questions. It is essential that you have an insight with the voice tone of the lawyer while speaking with you. If you are spoken to in a disrespectful or condescending manner, politely say your goodbyes and continue your interviews with other candidates on your list. The same goes for a divorce attorney who laughs at you or making you feel foolish.

As a client, you should be dealt with decency and also value. It’s essential that your lawyer will prove that he is on your side. Definitely, you want a person in your party who does not make you feel small or even berates you.

You wouldn’t want to get even in your spouse. Your lawyer should be able to give your marriage a hassle-free as well as equal divorce for you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse. In all stages of your case particularly in talking with your attorney, you mustn’t mention of the word “revenge”. Keep a fair play with each other.

You may meet a legal professional who really sweeps you off your feet, as we say, at your first meeting. You may opt to employ this individual after only one meeting. Do not be tempted with it easily. Just before making your final selection, you should meet a few prospects.

When you’re going through a divorce, trust a superb family lawyer to assist you.


Victoria Pynchon is an attorney-mediator and arbitrator. She is also a principal in the She Negotiates Consulting and Training firm for which her blog “She Negotiates” is named. In addition to writing for the Forbes.com legal blog “On the Docket,” Pynchon also authored the book “A is for A**hole, the Grownups' ABCs of Conflict Resolution.