A family lawyer is going to be ideal person to handle your divorce process. Nevertheless, having a divorce is not probably be accomplished every day so, where shall you start? The very first thing you need to do is making a list of divorce attorneys that you could potentially get. Meet with one and also interview him in the same way that you would interview any professional that you were thinking about hiring. If you do not feel safe with him or the text is not there, cross him off your list and proceed onto another person listed.

This is an essential matter in your life and the very last thing you should do would be to work with a person that you don’t like or feel you cannot trust. Always pay attention to your predatory instincts with regards to your choice of a family lawyer.

You would like to pick an attorney who will be upfront with you about his fee structure. You need to make this very clear before you work a case with him. You don’t want any unwanted financial surprises when you are halfway through your case.

He should be able to clarify the matters to you concerning the payment and also the due date. He must tell you what payment ways are appropriate and how much money you have to pay at the onset.

You do not want to end up in a dispute with your legal provider over money, so expect to get an honest discussion regarding settlement ahead of the work gets underway. You are going through enough already with your soon-to-be ex-spouse and do not need to add to your troubles.

Go to your interview with a family lawyer armed with a set of very specific questions. You need to be sensitive with the tone the attorney is using. If you think he speaks with you in a condescending way, you say goodbye in a respectful way and proceed your next prospect. The same is what you have to do for a legal professional who makes you foolish.

As a client, you need to be dealt with decency and value. You have to believe that the family lawyer that you work with is in your favor. Someone who berates you or makes you feel small or stupid is not somebody you want on your team.

You also do not want to take revenge on your wife or husband. What you want is an attorney who will do everything in his power to dissolve your marriage equitably and can do so in an expedient style. Keep the word “revenge” out of all of your communications with your attorney. Keep a fair play with one another.

During your first stage on looking for lawyer, you may meet someone who will make you sweep your feet off. You may find him certified with just one meeting. Fight the urge to do this! Meet with a few before making a final choice.

You have to have a competent family lawyer in your corner when you’re having a divorce.

Victoria Pynchon is an attorney-mediator and arbitrator. She is also a principal in the She Negotiates Consulting and Training firm for which her blog “She Negotiates” is named. In addition to writing for the Forbes.com legal blog “On the Docket,” Pynchon also authored the book “A is for A**hole, the Grownups' ABCs of Conflict Resolution.