Taking a Break to Be Introspective in Mediation


Some may have noticed that I have taken a 30 day hiatus from blogging.  I did it intentionally, because I needed to tamp down the noise of every day conflict and listen without adding my voice to the chaos.  I saw that Maria Shriver took a month off from her regular blog in August, and I thought it was time for me to try my hands at stillness for these past 30 days.  

The past 30 days have been restorative for me.  Through terrible news of mass shootings and civic betrayals, flooding and failed diplomatic efforts worldwide, I have remained silent.  Although I haven’t found any of the answers or solutions, I have learned something very useful for mediation:  silence may lead to wisdom from within–or at least may help each party to see it’s ultimate truth as well as conduct a small self-reflection of how much the fight is worth to them, or alternatively, how much ending the fight is valued.  

As a Jewish American, I have been spent much of September assessing, atoning, asking for forgiveness, vowing to do better in the coming year and praying that I and those that I love are in the book of life for another year.  Now, in what we call “the season of our gladness”, I’m choosing to re-commit to bringing light to every new conflict before me–instead of acting on instinct and merely adding my voice to the noise and amplifying the differences among us.  



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Jan Frankel Schau
Jan Frankel Schau. Problem Solver. Mediator. Author. Ally. Jan Frankel Schau, Esq. settles litigated cases arising out of employment, business and tort disputes and has mediated over 1,000 litigated cases throughout Southern California. Jan has been a Panel Neutral at ADR Services in Los Angeles since 2007 and is widely considered one of L.A.’s preeminent mediators. Jan is also a popular trainer, author and lecturer on topical issues related to Alternative Dispute Resolution, including her book, “View from the Middle of the Road: A Mediator’s Perspective on Life, Conflict and Human Interaction.Website: www.schaumediation.com

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